Recently published survey results from the United States seem rather predictably to confirm that the children of divorced parents suffer security issues in their later lives and poor parental relationships when they grow up if reliable and civilised contact is not maintained with both parents. The younger the children are on separation the worse the effect. Surveys often tell what we already know instinctively but again it emphasises the vital role that minimising parental conflict plays in the process. If you are the wife or husband who perceives, however justifiably that you have been very badly treated you will suffer the pains of anger, grief and maybe a desire for revenge.
Doing so is bad for your children if these emotional reactions spill over into their lives and their relationship with the “Guilty Parent”. It is incredibly hard for parents to be calm and objective about the other spouse in front of their children whilst at the same time feeling heartbroken, let down and angry. Counsellors and mediators can help but do get some expert legal advice. Fear of “what’s going to happen next” adds fuel to the dispute and clear sensible realistic legal advice can seriously help put it into perspective and find workable solutions. And if you are the spouse / partner who no longer lives with the children do stay in contact with them and be committed to seeing them regularly and as often as you can.
I always recommend good quality legal advice and if it has to go to court we can help set up the application, advise as it proceeds and, if you want, attend court at fixed fees where finances are tight.
Faye Remnant is part of our Family Law team based in Loughborough; our Solicitors in Loughborough are experts in their fields and dedicated to quality client care. If you would like to find out more about our solicitors in Loughborough please contact us.
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